09 September 2008
Off & On & Up
Even though my depression is mostly regulated thanks to modern medicine, I still have days here & there that are difficult. Sometimes I know what triggers it. Sometimes I don't. When I'm having a difficult day, I often say that I'm "a little rough around the edges." I picture single-celled organisms from my high school biology days, with spiky outlines. Usually the meds soothe this; the meds make it easier to deal with things that would otherwise be catastrophes of epic proportions. When the meds weren't quite right, or before I sought treatment, something as mundane as losing my keys could send me tail-spinning.
These days, it doesn't have to be anything in particular; I've decided that hormonal surges can account for days when I'm sarcastic and snarfy and snarky with everyone and everything. (Yeah, yeah, yeah, how would you be able to tell the difference from any other day, Luce? There, I beat ya to your snark!)
Today is one of those rough around the edges days. I looked in the mirror this morning whilst getting ready for work, and I noticed the bit of weight I've gained in my face. That bummed me out. Then it is an overcast day, rainy and miserable, and it is going to be like that for a few days around here. That grey, oppressing sky! It makes me feel like the clouds themselves are pushing down on me, dark forces un-named making it hard to see out of the gloom.
I frequently get songs stuck in my head, and this morning I woke up humming the harmony from a Dave Matthews Band song, #41. I know I mentioned it a few weeks ago, but the sax player from DMB died recently, far too young, and there's an evocative solo he had in that song, and thinking about it made me sad.
Add those three things up, and bam, not such a good day in the offing.
Folks who haven't walked down Depression Way will say very un-helpful things like, "Snap out of it. Its just the blues." or "C'mon, how bad can it be? Get over it." Which, as I said, isn't helpful. Because then you feel guilty for feeling this crappy. How difficult, truly, is my life? A roof over my head, enough to eat, I get out of bed every morning, put my feet on the floor and walk. So much more than so many others, that I shouldn't feel crappy. That somehow, I ought to be able to 'snap out of it.'
As I drove to work, I kept saying things to myself like, c'mon, you're going to a job you love. You're doing well there. You like it. Little mind games, to, indeed, try to snap myself out of it. A little coffee with chocolate (have I mentioned Bellagio sipping chocolate? Milk+ Bellagio + coffee = yum.) and avoiding listening to the news, instead listening to my "happy" playlist on my iPod, and yeah, it is going to get better. But I wish it didn't get to the low end of the spectrum in the first place.